How to Deal with Rejection & Recover from a Breakup?
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What is Rejection?
Rejection really sucks and it is a common tragedy that takes place everywhere on the planet. The causes are many like:
Lack of harmony
Lack of chemistry
Lack of communication
Lack of REAL attraction
Lack of sexual activities
Lack of mutual interests and orientation
What are the Reasons of Rejection?
To talk about the reasons, there are hundreds of them which lead eventually to painful breakup. It’s also an ugly by-product that comes with dating. It becomes difficult to handle because the feelings have committed and fates were almost entwined and no one has the ability to completely kill that pain caused or to forget momentarily. What we need is some patience and rational thinking to reduce the effects and minimize the bangs. There will be post-rejection traumas for sure, but one will recover once attempted to face the issue instead of immersing in crying, isolating oneself or drinking. This could happen in many ways by finding another soulmate, talking to your friends or consult an expert. Also, know and keep in mind that the person who rejected you is not the last one on earth and there are plenty of better persons but you just haven’t looked around. Making a martyr of yourself will not solve the problem, nor keep calling or soliciting or begging. What you should do is look into the future and go on with your life. Note that, these rejection steps come of course after trying to reconciliate and discuss the relationship with your partner. I am citing those steps when all your attempts go a wry or fail. So, instead of living in the cave that you built yourself, try to pave your way ahead and you will find excellent results. Now let’s look at the survey conducted by the American Demographics Statistics about rejection and the diversion pursued by both sexes:
35% of Americans today say they have been through a breakup at least once in the past 10 years.
43% of Americans who have been through a recent breakup say they called friends or family afterward.
29% say they rented movies or watched a lot of TV.
36% of adults get over an ex by dating someone new.
15% says they go shopping for a dose of retail therapy.
10% go on a vacation.
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How to Deal with Rejection?
We can see here that it is not the end of the world and there are millions out there who dumped or got dumped up because anyway, it’s not an easy task to find a soulmate. However, here are some tips on how to deal with it:
Face your rejection:
Deal with your pain and don’t just hide in your room or hide in a bottle of wine! No one denies the fact that there is a lot of pain involved but you will face it sooner or later, and since life is too short, you better face it NOW and move on.
Keep yourself busy:
Occupy yourself with some useful hobby, watch TV, go out with friends because your worst enemy here is being alone. So, just do whatever you like and who knows this might be a new beginning to a new relationship.
Don’t be around reminders:
Don’t listen to that song which reminds you of your partner; don’t go to the same place you both used to go, don’t be in places you used to hang around, stay away from their gifts or souvenirs. It’s true that you will live an agony for days, weeks or months, but life is too short and too busy to spend your time thinking of Mr. or Ms. Wrong.
I included here a video that illustrates the steps of handling rejection from NLP (Neuro-Linguistics Programming) point of view. Please enjoy!
Also, please visit this link for free and funny statistics of break ups.
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appreciate your visit bfloyd79 and good luck.
Really enjoyed reading your hub.
I just got out of a six year relationship, which was hard, and I have to agree with most of what you said. However, one of the things I realized coming out this past relationship was that the pain is part of the human experience and that on some level it does need to be embraced (but that does not mean we need to go over board). I came to this conclusion by watching my ex live in a state of complete distraction, where she kept herself so busy she never dealt.
Anyway, loved the hub! Thanks.
so true. T___T
so true. T___T
...wtf...?
OMG!!! (Oh My Geebers) Drowning in Regret that the blue quilt has castd over me, u could right a philosophical story about a guy and a bridge!
Your hubs are so uplifting! My boyfriend just broke up with me! You have helped me through the brickwall that has towered in front of me for as long as I can remember, casting a shadow so that I was unable to read the Sunday comics...thankyou...(profound)
Thank you for visiting GH..
Wow great tips for moving on hehehe... Thank you for sharing my friend...
Daisy1, I fully understand and all I can say is: keep struggling... Good luck.
having broke up some months ago im still struggling
Thanks a lot keira :)
Great hub brother. thanks, God Bless.
Thank you fiksy02. No one said breaking up is easy! It's so tough, but still not the end...
Great Job, break up is one thing that always happen and we all need to learn how to move on
Wow poetlorraine! Appreciate taking the time to come here, thanks.
this is a great hub however many times you read it
Appreciate it Lgali, thanks.
another good hub
Waren, my devoted and genuine fan, thank you for the comment.
Cool advice there thanks!
Thank YOU LS, glad you digged it :)
wow! im glad i got to read your HUB, really really open my eyes, it hasnt been easy to let go, little by little though..just reading it made me feel good and i know what i must do now, Thanks.
WOW, Uma07, this is an honor, thanks a lot :)
You really make me feel good now.Rejection by friends and relatives hurts just as much.Thanks for the tips.I just bookmarked this.
Thank you loveofnight.
good info...thx 4 share
If they really are soulmates, which means they fully and completely in deep love, I think there would be no discord at all... Thank you fionacassim.
Excellent hub on an excellent topic :)
What's your feeling on soulmates?
Exactly, Peggy, its not the end of the world. Thanks for your comment.
An old saying..........there are "many fish in the sea" meaning that life does not have to end because one relationship did not turn out well. It does take time to heal, however. Good job on this hub.
Thank you jacobkuttyta.
Good Hub. Well written.
We take the risk because it's worth it tony, it has its bangs, but still worth it.... Thank you.
Thanks for sharing - rejection and loss are such painful things, I often wonder why we put ourselves in the way of such thnings. But then I remember the joys and fun of the other thing - acceptance - and I know why we take that risk!
Love and peace
Tony
I hope you're ok and I am sure you are. Thank you for sharing your story and leaving this nice comment as usual :)
Thanks, shamel. You got this down to a science! One of my favorite lines in a movie belongs to Judy Dench in Shakespeare in Love. In response in what to do when love is denied, she decrees: "...With tears and a journey." That was exactly how I ended my three-year relationship with my ex (that was when I left for New Paltz). Thank you so much for sharing this with me.
Thank you Jess...
Nice job on this article, Shamelabboush. Thank you
BC, my true friend :) I humbly thank you :)
Really helpful Hub, thank you my friend !
Helen Cater, that is the whole idea, time can't wait for you... Thanks for the contribution...
Time does take away the pain if you can let it go sooner you will move on with your life and find that true love is still waiting for you.
breaking up is bever easy wesleycox, but if the other partner just let go of you, i think its a waste of time and energy to keep ruminating and pondering... thank you.
Breaking up is absolutely terrible, especially after twelve years of marriage. Does the pain ever go away? I dunno. Great topic of discussion though.
hehehe, i am sure, in time chrissie123, tanks for the visit.
Great hub. More people need to read this. SOooooo true!
Good thing bunchee, anyway you're cutey booty and no one can harm you ;)
lol.. i don't need to watch my back.. i have a strategy in place :-) I clicked the link for that stat thing.. funneeee!!!
Thanks a lot Brenda :)
lovely hub well written....
Bucnhee, this is unfortunately the case with all of us, we cry and weep then we realize that fact late! It's better to move on soon.... And watch your back bunchee :)
a friend of mine had a timeline -- deal with the break-up in one week.. she cried her eyes out, lost appetite, stopped seeing friends and replayed memories of her bf over and over again while crying still... after a week, she was back on her feet and made a mental note to herself: it's his loss, not mine! and right on the guy did regret (and even tried to make up with my friend).. unfortunately for the guy, my friend got over him.. and we had a great laugh everytime she replayed the scene of her 1 week trauma.. LOL!
Hello Dori :) Your'e always the first to comment, thanks a lot.
Awesome Hub Shame and so true. I know alot of women who start dating soon after a breakup, I think you need time to re-group. Great Job!
dori
Ruusa 3 weeks ago
A break up is a the traumatic situation especialy when u are commited and faithful but dumped out of no reason. If u are never dumped then u are not yet hurt! Im going through this...is a stab at the heart.